I’m honoured to be nominated for the sunshine blogger award by Stephen (https://therapyglasgow.com). Check out the rules for this award at the end.
What 3 things would you change about the world if you could do anything?
For me, the most 3 important things are health, family and happiness, therefore, I would love healthcare to be free globally; this would greatly benefit families. Furthermore, I would love to increase funding for mental illness treatment and remove the shame from mental illness to allow lots more people to become truly happy.
What 3 things would you change about your life if you could do anything?
I wouldn’t change anything in my life because everything happens for a reason. If it isn’t a blessing then it will be a lesson.
What brings you the most joy in life?
My family, friends and my puppy Joe.
What’s the most courageous thing you’ve ever done?
Without a doubt, the most courageous thing I have ever done is work on my recovery from depression and anxiety. From staying strong on the days where I could see no end to my torment, to making difficult decisions to better my health; this has required a lot of bravery. Reintegrating into my life again, after being severely unwell, was horrific. I couldn’t leave the house without flying into a panic and I was sick constantly, but nevertheless I persisted. I faced situations that induced fear in me until the anxiety they provoked was neutralised – that may sound simple, but going to uni everyday whilst shaking/sweating/vomiting is really unpleasant. Additionally, being open about my struggles was terrifying; I didn’t know what reaction I would get. Luckily, I have had an overwhelmingly positive reaction but I had conjured all sorts of possible outcomes in my head.
What do you most need in your life?
When you hit rock bottom your life gets put into perspective – when everything you thought was so important to you falls away you get to see what really matters. All I need is my family, my health and my friends – nothing more. I don’t think you can truly appreciate the significance of your health and close network until you are faced with dealing with something hard. The darkness brings out some light that you wouldn’t have otherwise seen.
Who’s the most genuine person you know?
My friend Jade is there for me 100% of the time and I am extremely grateful for that. She has my back; she supports me and she is just a lovely person. During bad times fake friends don’t stick but she has always stood by me.
What’s the kindest thing anyone’s has ever done for you?
At the start of this year, I had an anxiety attack on the train and I was freaking out. It had been snowing but in the crowded train I was roasting and I was convinced I would be sick. If you have ever had an anxiety attack then you will understand the sheer terror that washes over you and I felt so desperate for respite that I asked a stranger beside me how much longer the train would take. I would have looked a mess and I would’ve been acting so shifty, however, this young guy reassured me that it wouldn’t be long and that a lot of people felt like that on trains. I did not believe him for one second but the kindness that demonstrated restored my faith in people. To support a stranger who is clearly having a tough time is so sweet and from that day on I always vowed to pay it forward ten-fold.
What makes a real friend?
For me, a real friend is someone who has your back; loyalty is really important to me and without it there is no trust. Honesty, transparency and good intentions are essential to me because I have no time for drama, rumours or lies. And you can tell good intentions from selfish intent extremely easily – do your friends support you behind the scenes, in the absence of others seeing their good deeds? If you know that you could call your friend and that they would be there for you in a heartbeat, then you have a true friend and I am so lucky to have so many.
Where do you feel most at peace?
I feel most relaxed at home, in my bed. It would sound more exotic to prefer the beach or something, but that makes me think of the hassle of travelling. When I was doing Graded Exposure Therapy the best thing was facing a challenge then coming home to nap. At the end of exhausting and horrendous days, I’ve always got to go back to my bed and forget about it.
Name 3 things you want to do before you die.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is extremely effective and should be the first-line treatment for many psychiatric disorders but due to the cost it is normally skipped out. I would love to start a charity that provides CBT for people in need. It can be very expensive but the results are completely worth the cost. I would also like to help destigmatise mental illness and support others.
Name 3 things you like about yourself.
My determination has been invaluable in my journey of recovery and without it I would have given up a long time ago. I have a great ability to look on the bright side which has kept me going during hard times. But my favourite thing about myself is that I no longer place any significance on any negative comments/actions that are directed towards me, as I realise that they are not a reflection of me but instead of the person themselves.
- What 3 things would you change about yourself?
- What 3 things bring you peace?
- What is happiness to you?
- Do you have any regrets?
- What do you want to get rid of in your life?
- Who’s the most important person in your life?
- Why do you blog?
- What makes you smile?
- What made you become the person you are today?
- What is your greatest achievement?
- Name 3 things you love about yourself.
- Thank the person who nominated you and provide a link back to their blog so others can find them.
- Answer the 11 questions asked by the blogger who nominated you.
- Nominate 11 other bloggers and ask them 11 new questions.
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- List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award logo on your post and/or your blog site.